A question I asked myself when I was first learning about coaching, which believes we all have our own answers, was this… “If I have all of my answers, then why do I ever feel confused?”
What I learned was powerful.
You may not have all the answers right away when a problem arises, none of us do when it comes to bigger issues where consequences are at stake. For example, “If I follow my heart, my family (or spouse) will look down on me.” “If I quit the job I hate, how will I make ends meet?” "If I head in a new direction, what might happen?"
Those bigger questions, when brought into a coaching conversation, are game changing. In this regard, the coach helps us look deeper into ourselves for the soul-utions we seek. Once we are asked the right questions, new openings become possible.
Coaching is so powerful because the questions become the keys that unlock new possibilities, and then we realize we did have the answer, we did all along. This is why coaching feels magical, yet is practical. It feels miraculous, yet is grounding. So, without the key that unlocks the door, we stay stuck by the illusory closed door.
Once the question has been posed, our brain sets out to answer it and our heart can jump in to pour forth it’s knowing that is rooted deeper that we’ve ever known prior.
Now, this is a concept worth exploring…
By Laurel Elders, PCC
IICT Founder / Senior Faculty