You have heard of hackers, right? All of the sudden your computer no longer works and is wigging out from a “virus” sent out. “Thanks hacker,” you think.
Wikipedia’s rendition of a hacker is: “someone who seeks and exploits weaknesses in a computer system or computer network.” I would like to add, “and then subsequently does damage.”
Now, have you heard of a white-hat hacker? A white-hat hacker is also a skilled “hacker” that knows how to navigate internal systems, however, for the greater good. The intent is to protect a system from future damage or fix damage that has occurred. The white-hats are hired for both prevention and damage control.
Our egos are like the hackers that create breakdowns and limits. Our heart speaks and the ego says, “No, silly, you can’t accomplish that. You don’t deserve it anyway.” The egoic self wears us thin, can break us down, or keep us thinking in loops, cycles or limits. Or, how about when your ego says, “Wow, you really blew that. Good luck ever landing that gig again.”
That is where a coach comes in. We do not buy into the ego stories that run viral. We are the white-hat hackers to the limiting beliefs we’ve kept in place far too long or keeping us at arms length from a major success. What keeps us small is our ego structure and defense mechanisms, which act like a buffer to the external world. We may be so enmeshed with our believe structure that we don’t identify it without an external person offering a pattern disrupt and helping us question our “limitations”.
"It is not how far down the rabbit hole do you wish to go.
By Laurel Elders, PCC
IICT Founder / Senior Faculty