Hope your summer is off to a great start! In today's resource, Laurel offers a unique perspective on fear and how it impacts our confidence in life. Confidence is an area many clients struggle with as they work towards their goals. We hope this reflection offers a fresh perspective you can apply to your life and in your coaching going forward.


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Life Reflection: Confidence
by: Laurel Elders

Last night was my youngest son’s final concert of his senior year. I sat in the audience so impressed. I’ve watched this group grow since freshman year. They went from freshman flop to fabulous! 

It made me reflect on how different my high school experience was. In contrast to my son, I was a loner and horribly shy. I had very little self-concept or self-esteem. High school, for me, was an excruciatingly painful experience. 
 
But for my son, it was a blast! I watched him embody the confidence I never found. I realized how much I missed out on in life because fear held me back. Sigh…
 
Years ago, I learned from A Course in Miracles that fear is a state of mind. That is it. Nothing more. Fear is a mindset and can shift. Living in fear is a choice.
 
Sufi teachings talk about how fear is only half a message, reflecting only what we don’t want. On the other hand, our heart has the other half of the message, reflecting what we do want and value. Our heart moves us from darkness to light.
 
Looking back, I wonder what life would have been like if I had found my inner light sooner. I’ve watched the light in my children. Sometimes it is stronger than others, but it is there. I also see it in my clients. Once they locate their inner light, their life illuminates in new ways.
 
There is a grieving that can come with this recognition. When we realize finding our inner light could have happened sooner and that we lived needlessly in the dark. Sadness naturally can surface.
 
But after the wave of grief passes, there is a clearing. The clearing is a new awareness that life is our responsibility. As we go within to cultivate our unique inner light, we can make life profoundly count.
 
How often do we allow ourselves to steer beyond the fear so that the miracles can appear?

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I wanted to share one of my favorite stories from one of our lead coaches, Tabitha Danloe. Tabitha's dog, Scooby, used to be extremely hard to walk. He is a very strong pup and loves to chase critters like crazy while on his leash. This behavior pulled Tabitha all over the place. She almost gave up walking him because it was so frustrating and potentially dangerous. 

One day, Tabitha learned that there are three primary motivators for dogs. They are either motivated by food, praise, or prey. It turned out that Scooby is prey motivated. So while he is walking, he wants to chase everything he sees as prey. However, if you give a prey motivated dog a toy to hold in their mouth while they walk, they feel satiated, and the desire to chase is gone. This toy technique did the trick, and now she happily can walk Scooby without him chasing everything!

People and their motivators are more complex! In coaching, learning your clients underlying motivations can be a true game changer. Today's resource offers a new perspective on motivation in the workplace from the inspiring and impactful Simon Sinek. And if you're feeling motivated to create change, our Institute is offering several coach training opportunities this summer.
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How to Motivate the Unmotivated
by: Simon Sinek

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