You may have heard of intrinsic and extrinsic motivations. As a personal trainer, we learned that people who are motivated from within, or intrinsically motivated, are the one's that are more likely to succeed than those externally motivated.
What I've learned since is that there is a chapter in the book on motivation that they left out.
Intrinsically motivated goals means something within me is fueling me to energize me to attain my goal. Ex: If I lose 4 pounds this week, I will feel better and feel satisfied.
Extrinsically motivated goals, on the other hand, mean I am motivated by something outside of myself to energize my goal so that I can attain it. Ex: If I lose 4 pounds this week, then I will buy myself a new workout shirt.
Yet, Terry Warner introduces a new layer of depth to human motivate, and I believe, it is a game changer.
"For the only change that matters is a change of heart.
Every other change alters us cosmetically but not fundamentally;
modifies how we appear, what we do or what we say, but not who we are."
- C. Terry Warner author of Bonds that Make Us Free
So, let's set aside relating to objects as rewards. Objects don't love us back. This is most likely why they were proven to provide short term motivation only.
Next, look at your "why". What would the goal bring to your heart? Good. Now, one more layer.
What happens when your inner "why," your heart, adds other people into your goals? You now have a purpose and meaning bigger than yourself.
Answer this. Take one goal you have for yourself right now. What positive impact does attaining your goal have on others? In what ways does the positive impact matter?
Ex: If I lose 4 pounds this week, I will feel better and add to my health. Then I would be able to play with my grandkids longer and light up each others’ lives.
Now I am deeply motivated and rooted in my motivations.
Your turn. Why do your goals matter to others? How will their life and your life improve?
Perhaps it goes without saying. The deeply rooted our motivations, the more natural our commitment grows. The deeper the roots, the taller the tree.
Let’s change what deeply matters. As this year comes to a close and we face the year to come, I invite you to keep Terry's words in mind as you set your goals and deepen your motivations by asking, "Whose life will I positively impact by reaching this goal and what makes this positive impact on them so truly important to me?"
By Laurel Elders
Edited by Nancy Smyth and Sharon Eaks
The first time I was in a helicopter, my friends and I were being medevaced to the nearest emergency room. I was 15. The accident happened on the way up to a concert in Phoenix during a surprise birthday trip with friends. On the ride up, the girl driving veered off the edge of the freeway, over-corrected, and spun us out of control. Our small truck flipped multiple times and flung us out onto the pavement at 80 miles per hour.
That was quite the experience! It led to a severe PTSD response in my body which occurs anytime someone else is driving, I'm on the freeway, or when I'm flying in a plane. The fear of enduring another crash hasn't left my side in over 27 years.
Last week was the first time I rode in a helicopter for fun!
It was spouse appreciation at the 943rd Search & Rescue Squadron and Davis-Monthan Air Force Base. I almost cancelled. I was terrified. But I decided to push through and..... I survived! I also had such an amazing experience! No regrets!
There are two types of fears we face: physical and emotional. Physical fears are connected to the safety of our physical body and health. Emotional fears are also connected to our safety, but our emotional safety.
Emotional fears are the ones that limit our potential. We help our clients examine and become aware of these fears, so they can remove inner-obstacles to their success. The Enneagram is a very helpful tool for this examination process.
Each Enneagram type has a unique Basic Fear and Basic Desire. Our motivations are linked to our Basic Fear and Basic Desire.
Here is an overview of each type and the motivations beneath the behavior:
Often, similar behaviors on the surface are deceiving. For example: If I strive to demonstrate competence as a Type Five, I might look like a Type Three striving for success.
Yet, coaching a Type Five versus coaching a Type Three requires a completely different perspective since the underlying motivations are vastly different.
To this end, the Enneagram offers a powerful self-awareness shortcut for clients to self identify what might be running the show. Once they become self-aware, they can shift out of the limiting patterns of the personality and step into their true gifts and human potentials.
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By Laurel Elders, PCC
IICT Founder / Senior Faculty