 Life in Transition What will I do now? I’ve asked myself this question many times in life when something occurs that will cause change to happen. I’ve never been a fan of change. In fact, I have and still do, dread it. When things change, it creates a whole universe of newness that I have to think about in order to make the transition from one way of living to another. Transitions are uncertain and our brains are not wired to like uncertainty. Over the course of my life, I have found ways to help me balance my dread with hope and I will share what I’ve discovered here.
Transitions can occur from changes in life situations such as marriage, divorce, death of a loved one, new jobs, loss of a job, children being born, children leaving home, retirement, and buying a new home. All of these changes can uproot our way of life, causing stress. Even when the changes are exciting, we are stepping into unchartered territory. For some of us, change can be a bit easier if we enjoy the novelty of new ventures while others have a harder time because we enjoy the comfort the status quo affords us. Despite all of the differences in people’s personalities that influence their comfort with change, we can all be affected mentally and emotionally by upheavals in our lives. So how do we maintain some balance in life during times of transition? Some of the first things that happen in transition, is that we lose our sense of direction and stop taking care of ourselves. We eat poorly, don’t get enough sleep, push ourselves too hard or shut down, and we fall off our schedules. All of this is due to uncertainty of the unknown. Here are some ideas to help bring about more balance: 1. Make a schedule/plan – this helps to alleviate some of the uncertainty by creating clear intentions and steps of action along with time frames for these. Be specific with your intentions. The more specific you are with these, the less uncertainty you will experience. 2. Allow yourself to grieve – whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one or any part of your life that is no longer the same, it’s important to be gentle with yourself and realize that this process takes time. Reach out for help from friends, family, support groups, therapists, or life coaches. Going it alone can increase your chances for anxiety and/or depression. 3. Give yourself time for breaks – being focused helps you meet your action steps in your schedule or plan but it’s not effective to stay focused all day. Your brain needs to rest so it’s a good idea to pause throughout the day by taking short power naps, meditating, taking a walk, or engaging in a fun relaxing hobby. Focus helps develop the structure we need but creating time for breaks offers us a more rounded day that keeps us refreshed and less likely to burn-out or give up. 4. Take care of yourself – eat healthy food, get exercise, get enough sleep, and find time to meditate or do some of the things you enjoy doing. Reach out to friends and family for social time. Schedule time with a professional if you need help with any of your self-care, including releasing and processing emotions. Finally, shifting your perspective so you can look at your transition time as having some positive results instead of just being all bad, will open you to new possibilities. We can begin to see some beautiful opportunities and life paths open up even when we are dealing with deep wells of pain and grief. Through support, self-care, and self-love we can better maintain our mental and physical health so that we can step into a new way of life with balance. We can be open to embrace new adventures that we would have never known if our life stayed exactly as it was. Darcie Litwicki is an Integrative Life Coach that combines solid coaching skills and working with horses to create a dynamic and transformative coaching process for people to reach their personal and professional goals. She believes her clients are the experts in their own lives and that we all have the ability to reach our highest potential but sometimes we need to engage in the coaching process to get there. Have you scheduled your free 60-minute coaching session to determine if this is a good fit for you in your life? Contact Darcie to get scheduled. You can schedule Equine Assisted Coaching In-Person Sessions at Silver Heart Ranch or sessions online (Zoom), or by phone. Darcie also offers a variety of group coaching options, workshops, and online classes. Contact her to learn more! Connect with Darcie www.silverheartranch.com [email protected] Facebook: @SilverHeartRanch (520) 370-8093 We all wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday! We hope it is full of grace, gratitude and glee. We were unable to get you a current team picture due to covid, so please enjoy this oldie but goody!! Much love, Team IICT Administration: Kate Ashton Laurel Elders Lauren Stidham Patrick Elders Faculty: Dori Klass - Know Thyself & Parts Work in Coaching Howie Adams - The Neurobiology of Emotional Intelligence & Somatics Karen Cappello - The Energy of Success Kristen Truman-Allen - Evoking Excellence through Metaphor Laurel Elders - Lead Faculty Nancy Smyth - The Anatomy of Peace Rebecca Smith - Referring Out Suzanne McFarlin - Leadership Specialization Tabitha Danloe - Business Launch! Tamica Sears - Leadership Specialization In memory of Sandy Hogan, our beloved friend and colleague.  We start soon!
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Questions? We are here to help! Email us: [email protected] Or click reply and submit your question. Last week we looked the steps to amplifying business success. Amplifying is one aspect. Creating short-cuts to success is another empowering aspect to success. Stepping into coaching allows us to eliminate blocks to success including: blind-spots, self-sabotage, limiting mindsets and resistance. To step fully into your brilliance, get coached. Coaching help us eliminate what is in the way so that the shortest path to success becomes natural and evident. Coaching was the top game changer in my life, my heart, my parenting and my career. Coaching is why I'm here today connecting with you. As Simon Sinek says, "Failure we can do alone. Success takes help." This week is another excellent video on the power of coaching. I am so proud of this profession! I hope you enjoy.  Do you have a big business goal you wish to accomplish in life? Do you feel like you are not accomplishing it fast enough? Is overnight business success actually real? I get it. It took me years to learn the success principles, face my fears and understand marketing so that I could have a cozy coaching practice to finally lean into full time. I realize that I definitely could have accomplished this in a much shorter time frame. With all of the media making it look like people are overnight successes and so many people marketing “get rich quick formulas”, it makes sense we beat ourselves up for not being a success in 3 months. On a small business association pamphlet I read that the average successful business takes 3-5 years to get fully launched. I also listened to a highly successful entrepreneur share that in his experience every overnight success he met was already 10 years in the making. While this news might feel disheartening, it doesn’t have to. Think of it this way. If you take 3 years to build a successful business and it supports you for 10, 20 or 30 years it would have been absolutely hands down worth it. Also, the years of hard earned wisdom and experience you have already accumulated counts towards your success. Also, with a streamlined marketing plan people can grow a coaching clientele much faster than the 3-5 year brick and mortar store. Well, I am here now, very deeply grateful I never gave up my vision for success. Here are 5 steps to amplify your business success: 1) Don’t give up your day job. I know this piece of advice is typically disappointing to hear. After all, you are excited about your vision and want to be living it already! I completely get that. However, if you are stressed over finances this can steeply impact the quality of work you produce. Even working part-time can give you consistent buoyancy so you can focus. 2) Give yourself a bigger window to see from. You don’t get a degree overnight. It takes 2-4 years. This is just like business success. It takes time, so give yourself time. Take the pressure off. For example: When we tell ourselves that we only have 3 months to have a full client load, we might freak out. When we tell ourselves that we have a full year to get the ball rolling, we can feel the spaciousness in that. This ease allows us to deliver quality work. 3) Be strategic and streamlined. Focus on accomplishing one goal at a time. Many new business owners fail because they take on too many goals at once, spread themselves too thin and flop. Switch your mindset from quantity to delivering quality. Quality and focused work will get you success much faster. 4) Don’t go it alone. There are people who have learned the hard way, learned the short-cuts and are greatly successful. Learn from them. Reinventing the wheel will take ten times longer. Tip: Stick with a coach/consultant when it comes to business success. The consulting will show you what to do and what to avoid. Then they will coach you on crafting your success formula. Other people’s success formulas work for them and their success doesn’t mean it will work for you. Avoid signing up for formulaic programs that look exciting but…. you are following someone else’s success formula! Those (typically overpriced) programs have a high failure rate. 5) Nourish your vision. Literally spend time thinking about what you LOVE LOVE LOVE about your vision. Envision you are already living it. Spending time in the positive energy of your vision and connecting with why you are embarking on this path will help you attract success. If people ask you about your services and you are self-conscious or divided between excitement and overwhelm, this comes across. If people ask about your services and you beam with love, it is noticeable and contagious! Many successful people spend anywhere from 5-30 minutes each morning before they start their day, focusing on their goals and nourishing them. |
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