Today's topic is self-sabotage. It is not a topic I've come across often, but it is one I have had to overcome in my own life and help my clients face regularly.
Before I got into coaching, I was a personal trainer. I learned quickly that most of my clients already knew exactly what to eat/not eat, how much to exercise, and what habits to avoid. Did they choose those things? Not until their relationship and emotional attachment to what was sabotaging them shifted. I could give them plans until I was blue in the face, but could I create change?
Coaching invites change. Coaching also anchors in the change by engaging the neuroplasticity we have in the brain.
I know that self-sabotage is a big topic for folks. We intentionally added training to our program to address this. Our Director of Training teaches a powerful coaching technique for unlocking self-fulfilling prophecies in her two parts series the Anatomy of Peace.
Other coaching approaches we teach to eliminate self-sabotage are Enneagram Transformations, the Map to Mastery, and the Outcome Model. As you can see, there are many paths to client empowerment.
Today's resource is a simple list of typical self-sabotage manifestations. You can use it to see if any of these challenge you, or you can use the list with clients to see if they experience any of these blocks.
By: Haley Osborne
"It may be hard to believe, but many respectable and self-confident people have experienced times when the conscious and subconscious levels of their mind ran counter to each other. This contradiction is called self-sabotage, which hinders a person from reaching their goals and making a successful career.
Many do not view internal resistance on the subconscious level as a difficulty, indicating that they may be unaware of this challenge. The conscious mind signals to you that there’s a problem to overcome, but you ignore it because you believe in yourself. If you are not sure whether it’s happening in your life, analyze the following manifestations, and explore solutions to the widespread self-sabotage among X, Z and Y generations."
Click Here to Read the Self-Sabotage Manifestations
By Laurel Elders, PCC
IICT Founder / Senior Faculty