Timing. It is one of the ways we can give our power away without knowing it. We either over heed timing and allow it to become an excuse for not moving forward, or we allow our impulses to leave us in the dust of effect as we view cause with longing in the rearview mirror and not knowing what happened.
This exploration of timing is based on the simple principle: “Different times, different things.”
Have you heard the adage, “There is no such thing as a good time – there is no time like now!” Or, how about “It is best to heed timing and all will fall into place.”?
These two seemingly discrepant perspectives on timing carry within them a single message.. a message that there is a time to act.
At what point is not acting holding us back? At what point is choosing exactly when to act empowering?
Let’s start with the first adage, “There is no good time.” I’ve heard people comment in this direction when it comes to having children, or going through a divorce. However, having had children before I obtained my degree, I can speak first hand to this first adage not applying to me. Waiting until after college would have been admittedly easier on them and me, financially and energetically.
What about heeding timing? That one has left it’s sting as well. I remember wanting so deeply to give a mentor of mine a hug of gratitude one evening and felt too shy to approach her in a large group..3 months later she passed away. There was no other time like now and I lament the missed opportunity that had sprung in my heart that day.
When we boil down these concepts we are left with two possibilities. The first is throwing caution to the wind, taking inspired action now and just going for it! The second is thinking ahead and mapping out a combination of opportunities. These possibilities beg the single question… At what point is it best to throw caution to the wind and go for it and at what point is it better to work from a well positioned plan?
Afterall, if we always work from a plan, we may miss ripe opportunities entirely. Yet, if we always throw caution to the wind, we may create too much chaos and not anchor in a rich new opportunity.
What criteria could help us determine when one is an asset and one a liability and vice versa?
Let’s examine foundation. Discernment: “Is my desire to not move forward based on fear, or based on missing ingredients?”
Person A: Not starting a new program that would bridge me to a new goal but really wanting too. Nothing is getting in the way that can’t be negotiated, but it that would bridge me to a major goal, feels like a big investment and life is always just too busy.
Person B: Not starting a new program that would bridge me to a new goal because I just started a new job, need some time to settle in and focus. I’ll start in 3 months.
Which axiom would be more fitting, when?
By Laurel Elders, PCC
IICT Founder / Senior Faculty